I'm approaching this month's resolutions a little differently from May. I think there are two routes to take when I'm trying to get myself to do something whether it's changing a habit or tackling a project or whatever. (Okay there are a million routes, but two kinds of routes.) I'll call it the action route and the feeling route.
Act the way you want to feel (or act)
I talk to one of my friends about this a lot -- when we're feeling bleh, action is almost always the answer. Bake the cookies, organize the closet, go to the event, write the blog post, call the friend, do the exercise. I often resist because, you know, I'm feeling bleh. And then I'm amazed that taking action bumps me out of the funk.
Feel better to act better
Then sometimes what I need is to immerse myself in inspiration or get grounded or refresh my energy, and then, once I do, taking action is the natural outpouring of that energy.
June is my first full month back at work, getting used to a completely new way of operating. All week I kept saying I've never been a working mom before. It's hard to overstate how big of a change this is. And I just have a lot to do. It's one of my busiest times of year at work and I'm getting used to juggling childcare and a social life and all of it.
So adding a bunch of action-oriented resolutions sounds about like walking with a bunch of gravel in my shoe. I am adding a few, that feel good, but mostly I'm focusing on the feeling.
The one resolution
Meditation. I've meditated on and off for years. And honestly that works for me. When I was younger I thought I needed to commit to it forever. But for me, sometimes meditation feels essential and sometimes other practices --like journaling or yoga or talking with friends -- have more juice.
Last week was a hard one with settling back into work while my husband was out of town. One morning I was so spun out that I couldn't not meditate. So I turned on a guided meditation by Tara Brach and found so much peace that since then I'm to sit down most mornings for 10 or 15 minutes.
This is what the feeling route is about -- setting the tone so that inspired action follows rather than forcing any particular task.
That said, in a few categories I do have a specific resolution I'm drawn to trying.
Food & Body
When I'm hungry, I'm asking myself what sounds good to eat and, when practical, eating that thing. I realized that since having Juliet I've been eating with my head more than my body and I want to get back to a more of an Intuitive Eating approach.
Home & Stuff
I'm spending 10-15 minutes straightening up after putting the baby to bed for the night. I almost let myself off the hook for this one (like who has time for this?? not me!) but then I realized that I feel more stressed out when things are messy, and taking a few minutes to mindlessly put things away calms me. Clearing the space helps clear my head.
This one is more along the lines of getting inspired -- I'm on the lookout for a money podcast or two that I like. (Feel free to share any suggestions!)
Work & Creativity
I mentioned a few new habits I want to create along the lines of the blank slate here and I think that's plenty for now!
So hello, June. The month that rings in summer and hot days and means we're almost halfway through the year. Hope you have a good one.